My vision for a godly wife

Here, I share my heart's desires for the woman I hope to share my life with. Discover the qualities I value, how I envision our life together, and the deep spiritual connection I believe will anchor our marriage.

Qualities I cherish in my future wife

Some qualities that I would cherish in my wife is the ability to talk and walk with God. This will be such an amazing bonus for me. When things get hard, does she turn to God, pray and speak words of faith? Also, her great relationship with God will show in how much peace and joy she has, and in her contentment. I'm hoping she will be feminine and playful too. That's such a turn on for me! My biggest wish is that we will minister together, pushing the boundaries of what a man and a woman committed to God can do. 

I'm able to look after all the hard stuff, but I'm hoping she will stand with me - fight with me, not against me. We're in a war against Satan and his demons. Intimacy sometimes isn't enough; we have to back each other with love, forgiveness and spiritual warfare. If my wife doesn't initially understand this, it's okay, I'll teach her!

Our life together: ordinary and extraordinary moments

Oh, this is an easy question. I love my wife so deeply. She is my greatest prize and treasure of my life. I'll want to kiss her and caress her while she is cooking! I'll honor her in front of my friends and family. I'll prioritize emotional intimacy with her above the business of life, and enjoy special moments with her during her day, and surprise her with things she'll love. We should talk about the health of our marriage once a week and how we can improve, and go out on a date to different places every week too.

Deepening our spiritual connection

Beyond shared faith, a strong spiritual connection is vital. This can be experienced at a deep level through meditation on God's Holy Marriage Covenant in Ephesians 5:22-33. It's something we must regularly do, praying it through and walking it out together. This shared intimacy and spiritual warfare will be the foundation of our lasting love.

"I've passed my 'L' and 'P' plates in God's school of marriage, and I'm ready for our forever."

Selwyn Niesler, Godly Man Seeks Beautiful Christian Wife